Thursdays at 8:00 pm CT
The call in number for this meeting is 605-313-5302, code 819585#.
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1. Introduction
(When moderating, using your phone’s mute button may work more smoothly than pressing *6.)
“Good day, my name is _____ and I will be your moderator today. This
meeting is for men who have been victims, perpetrators and/or rescuers in the cycle of violence.”
2. Serenity prayer
“God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”
“You may mute and un-mute your phone by pressing *6. If you are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted.”
3. Read the Preamble for Violence Anonymous
4. Read or ask a Volunteer to read: A word to newcomers (it’s on the Resources page too)
5. Read how it works
6. Member Introduction
“At this time we introduce ourselves by first name only. This is not to embarrass you, but to get to know you.”
7. Read one Additional Reading
| Boundary Styles | Child Abuse (short) |
| Drama Triangle Roles (short) | Nurturing Children (short) |
| Tools of Violence Anonymous | Creator (short) |
| Drama Triangle (short) | Traditions (short) |
| Non Violence | Ways Violence Is Carried Out |
| Signs of Victimhood (short) | Promises of VA (short) |
8. Sharing/Cross Talk Statement
“Would someone be willing to be timekeeper?” (Note: Using your phone’s mute button may work more smoothly than pressing *6.)
“This is a feedback meeting. We do not interrupt during another person’s share. We do not rescue by giving unsolicited advice. We do provide feedback for those who request it. If you would like feedback specific to something that you share in the meeting, please request it at the close of your share. Our group conscience states that we give feedback as it relates to working VA’s 12 Steps or is based on our experience of recovery in Violence Anonymous. Shares are 4 minutes in length with 3 minutes for feedback. When you are sharing, please acknowledge that you have heard the time keeper give the ‘one- minute’ warning and say the word ‘time’.
“If you are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted. You may mute and un-mute your phone by pressing *6. Who would like to share first?”
9. 7th Tradition (At 10 minutes before the close of the meeting)
Our 7th Tradition states that every VA group ought to be fully self supporting, declining outside contributions. We pass a virtual basket and ask that you give what you can. The funds are used to pay the expenses of the fellowship.
Contributions may be made via PayPal by going to the 7th Tradition page on the website.
10. Tools
Read titles of the Tools of Violence Anonymous.
“We take the next few minutes of the meeting for each person to share the tools they will use in the upcoming week to avoid playing the victim, rescuer and/or perpetrator.”
11. Contact Requests
“Now is the time for contact (phone #, email, Skype) requests. Please state who’s contact info you would like and we will exchange info after the closing of the meeting.”
12. VA Related Announcements
Now is the time for both VA and non-VA announcements. First are there any VA announcements that affect this meeting or VA as a whole? Are there any non-VA announcements about tools or outside resources that pertain to VA recovery?
13. Closing
“The opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you like and leave the rest. The things you heard were spoken in confidence and should be treated as confidential. Keep them within the walls of this room. Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love, and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time. The line will remain open after the meeting for fellowship. Will all who care to join me in the serenity prayer?”
14. Contact exchange and fellowship
Those persons whose contact info was requested can be shared now.