Promises of VA

During our practice of Step 9, we begin to see the Promises of VA revealing themselves in our daily lives. If we work for it, we find:

1. Fear of conflict is leaving us.  We understand how to engage others without drama.
2. We are developing the ability to meet our own needs while cooperating with others. 
3. We no longer seek the approval of others as the measure of our worth.
4. We are not severe, nor do we coerce.
5. We leave others in absolute freedom of choice.
6. We are authentic and no longer pretend to be someone we are not, in hopes that others will meet our needs.
7. We are no longer hasty.
8. We find no pleasure in judgment.
9. We are attuned to our needs and the needs of others, regardless of the situation.
10. We understand others’ needs, regardless of their communication style. 
11. We are finding freedom from the power of guilt and shame.
12. Solutions that used to baffle us are now clear and often easier than we had realized.
13. We no longer regret or ignore our past.
14. We know peace.
15. We have a clear understanding of how our experience can benefit others.