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SUGGESTED VA MEETING FORMAT

MONDAY MEN'S MEETING FORMAT

TUESDAY PROCESSING TRIGGERS MEETING FORMAT

WEDNESDAY MEETING FORMAT

THURSDAY STEP MEETING FORMAT

SUNDAY MEETING FORMAT

 

SUGGESTED VA MEETING FORMAT for any new Violence Anonymous Meeting

1. Introduction
"Good day, my name is _____ and I will be your secretary today. This
meeting is for persons who have been victims, perpetrators and/or rescuers in the cycle of violence."

2. Serenity prayer
"God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

"You may mute and unmute your phone by pressing *6. For those who are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted."

3. Read the preamble

4. A word to newcomers:

"Welcome. Violence Anonymous is a confidential fellowship, allowing us to speak without fear of anyone judging or commenting on what we have to say. The things you hear are spoken in confidence and should be treated as confidential. Anyone with a desire to stop participating in drama and violence is welcome in Violence Anonymous. If you are serious about arresting your violent behavior, V.A. can help. Whether you identify yourself as a victim, rescuer or persecutor, recovering from an addiction to violence is a serious challenge. The solution is here if you work for it. We suggest that you attend at least 6 meetings before deciding if Violence Anonymous is for you, and we urge you to place principles before personalities. By attending meetings and working the 12 steps of VA, we have found a solution that breaks the cycle of violence, and leads to safety, security and meaningful connections in our lives. We are learning to arrest our addiction to violent behavior, one day at a time."

5. Read how it works

6. Member Introduction
"At this time we introduce ourselves by first name only. This is not to embarrass you, but to get to know you."

7. Cross Talk Statement
"Now is the time for individual sharing. We ask that there be no cross talk – which means that we keep the focus on ourselves, address our remarks to the group and not to any individual. Please refrain from making remarks during another person’s share, and save questions and comments for after the meeting. Explicit descriptions of violent fantasies can be triggering to other members of the meeting. When sharing about violent fantasies, we put our focus on our powerlessness over the fantasy and the feelings that trigger the belief of victimhood. Please acknowledge that you have heard the time keeper give the one minute warning and the word "time" at the end of your share. You may mute and unmute your phone by pressing *6. For those who are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted. We are now open for discussion."

8. Readings, speaker, individual sharing.

9. 7th Tradition

Our 7th Tradition states that every VA group ought to be fully self supporting, declining outside contributions. We pass a basket and ask that you give what you can. The funds are used to pay the expenses of the fellowship.

Contributions may be made by:

1. Mailing a check, money order or well-wrapped cash to Violence Anonymous P.O.Box 152122 Austin, Texas 78715
2. PayPal Payments can be made to info@violenceanonyomus.com


10. VA Related Announcements
Announcements that affect this meeting or VA as a whole.

11. Closing
"The opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you like and leave the rest. The things you heard were spoken in confidence and should be treated as confidential. Keep them within the walls of this room. Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love, and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time. The line will remain open after the meeting for fellowship. Will all who care to join me in the serenity prayer?"

"God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."

 

MONDAY MEN'S MEETING FORMAT for a Violence Anonymous Meeting

 

1. Introduction
"Good day, my name is _____ and I will be your secretary today. This
meeting is for persons who have been victims, perpetrators and/or rescuers in the cycle of violence."

2. Serenity prayer
"God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
"You may mute and unmute your phone by pressing *6. For those who are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted."

3. Read the preamble

4. A word to newcomers:

"Welcome. You are safe here! Violence Anonymous is a confidential fellowship, allowing us to speak without fear of anyone judging or commenting on what we have to say. Anyone with a desire to stop participating in drama and violence is welcome in Violence Anonymous. If you are serious about arresting your violent behavior, V.A. can help. Whether you identify yourself as a victim, rescuer or persecutor, recovering from an addiction to violence is a serious challenge. The solution is here if you work for it. We suggest that you attend at least 6 meetings before deciding if Violence Anonymous is for you, and we urge you to place principles before personalities. By attending meetings and working the 12 steps of VA, we have found a solution that breaks the cycle of violence, and leads to safety, security and meaningful connections in our lives. We are learning to arrest our addiction to violent behavior, one day at a time."

5. Read how it works

6. Member Introduction
"At this time we introduce ourselves by first name only. This is not to embarrass you, but to get to know you."

Week 1: Step Meeting for that month with step speaker who has worked that step in VA. (If no one at the meeting has worked that step in VA, we read the step from the AA 12 & 12.)

Week 2-5: Open discussion.

 

7. Read one Additional Readings

Boundary Styles

Drama Triangle Roles

Tools of Violence Anonymous

Drama Triangle

Non Violence

Violence

Child Abuse

Nurturing Children

Creator

Traditions

8. Sharing

"Would someone be willing to be timekeeper?"

Now is the time for member qualification in Week 1, 2 or 3.

"Now is the time for individual sharing. We ask that there be no cross talk – which means that we keep the focus on ourselves, address our remarks to the group and not to any individual. Please refrain from making remarks during another person’s share, and save questions and comments for after the meeting. Explicit descriptions of violent fantasies can be triggering to other members of the meeting. When sharing about violent fantasies, we put our focus on our powerlessness over the fantasy and the feelings that trigger the belief of victimhood. Please acknowledge that you have heard the time keeper give the one minute warning and the word "time" at the end of your share. You may mute and unmute your phone by pressing *6. For those who are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted. We are now open for discussion."

9. 7th Tradition (At 10 minutes before the close of the meeting)
Our 7th Tradition states that every VA group ought to be fully self supporting, declining outside contributions. We pass a virtual basket and ask that you give what you can. The funds are used to pay the expenses of the fellowship.

Contributions may be made by:

1. Mailing a check, money order or well-wrapped cash to Violence Anonymous P.O.Box 152122 Austin, Texas 78715
2. PayPal Payments can be made to info@violenceanonyomus.com

10. Tools
Read the Tools of Violence Anonymous.
"We take the last few minutes of the meeting for each person to share the tools they will use in the upcoming week to avoid playing the victim, rescuer and/or perpetrator."


11. Contact Requests
"Now is the time for contact (phone #, email, skype) requests. Please state who's contact info you would like and we will exchange info after the closing of the meeting."


12. VA Related Announcements
Announcements that affect this meeting or VA as a whole.

13. Closing
"The opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you like and leave the rest. The things you heard were spoken in confidence and should be treated as confidential. Keep them within the walls of this room. Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love, and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time. The line will remain open after the meeting for fellowship. Will all who care to join me in the serenity prayer?"

14. Contact exchange and fellowship
Those persons whose contact info was requested can be shared now.

 

TUESDAY PROCESSING TRIGGERS MEETING FORMAT for a Violence Anonymous Meeting

1. Introduction
"Good day, my name is _____ and I will be your secretary today. This
meeting is for persons who have been victims, perpetrators and/or rescuers in the cycle of violence."

2. Serenity prayer
"God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
"You may mute and unmute your phone by pressing *6. For those who are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted."

3. Read the preamble

4. A word to newcomers:

"Welcome. You are safe here! Violence Anonymous is a confidential fellowship, allowing us to speak without fear of anyone judging or commenting on what we have to say. Anyone with a desire to stop participating in drama and violence is welcome in Violence Anonymous. If you are serious about arresting your violent behavior, V.A. can help. Whether you identify yourself as a victim, rescuer or persecutor, recovering from an addiction to violence is a serious challenge. The solution is here if you work for it. We suggest that you attend at least 6 meetings before deciding if Violence Anonymous is for you, and we urge you to place principles before personalities. By attending meetings and working the 12 steps of VA, we have found a solution that breaks the cycle of violence, and leads to safety, security and meaningful connections in our lives. We are learning to arrest our addiction to violent behavior, one day at a time."

5. Read how it works

6. Member Introduction
"At this time we introduce ourselves by first name only. This is not to embarrass you, but to get to know you."

7. Read:

Processing Triggers - A trigger is our internal reaction to a person, place, thing, situation or thought. Triggers can range from mild to severe. Some triggers are positive, and some are negative. When we are negatively triggered we are casting ourselves as victims. This puts us on the drama triangle, making it difficult to think, speak or act without causing harm. In recovery we recognize each trigger as a warning that we are at risk of behaving violently. We heed this warning, halt, and process the trigger before moving on. Processing a trigger is investigating the trauma that lies beneath the trigger and neutralizing our reaction to it. Our experience shows that processing triggers with support is essential. We don’t have to do it alone. Neutralizing traumas with the guidance of a trusted therapist, peer, or sponsor helps us become adept at processing triggers ourselves. By processing triggers as they come up, we gradually clear our inner landscape of the traumas that set off our violent behavior.


8. Sharing

"Would someone be willing to be timekeeper?"

Now is the time for member qualification about processsing triggers in Week 1, 2 or 3.

"Now is the time for individual sharing. We ask that there be no cross talk – which means that we keep the focus on ourselves, address our remarks to the group and not to any individual. Please refrain from making remarks during another person’s share, and save questions and comments for after the meeting. Explicit descriptions of violent fantasies can be triggering to other members of the meeting. When sharing about violent fantasies, we put our focus on our powerlessness over the fantasy and the feelings that trigger the belief of victimhood. Please acknowledge that you have heard the time keeper give the one minute warning and the word "time" at the end of your share. You may mute and unmute your phone by pressing *6. For those who are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted. We are now open for discussion."

9. 7th Tradition (At 10 minutes before the close of the meeting)
Our 7th Tradition states that every VA group ought to be fully self supporting, declining outside contributions. We pass a virtual basket and ask that you give what you can. The funds are used to pay the expenses of the fellowship.

Contributions may be made by:

1. Mailing a check, money order or well-wrapped cash to Violence Anonymous P.O.Box 152122 Austin, Texas 78715
2. PayPal Payments can be made to info@violenceanonyomus.com

10. Tools
Read the Tools of Violence Anonymous.
"We take the last few minutes of the meeting for each person to share the tools they will use in the upcoming week to avoid playing the victim, rescuer and/or perpetrator."


11. Contact Requests
"Now is the time for contact (phone #, email, skype) requests. Please state who's contact info you would like and we will exchange info after the closing of the meeting."


12. VA Related Announcements
Announcements that affect this meeting or VA as a whole.

13. Closing
"The opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you like and leave the rest. The things you heard were spoken in confidence and should be treated as confidential. Keep them within the walls of this room. Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love, and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time. The line will remain open after the meeting for fellowship. Will all who care to join me in the serenity prayer?"

14. Contact exchange and fellowship
Those persons whose contact info was requested can be shared now.

 

WEDNESDAY MEETING FORMAT for a Violence Anonymous Meeting

1. Introduction
"Good day, my name is _____ and I will be your secretary today. This
meeting is for persons who have been victims, perpetrators and/or rescuers in the cycle of violence."

2. Serenity prayer
"God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

"You may mute and unmute your phone by pressing *6. For those who are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted."

3. Read the preamble

4. A word to newcomers:

"Welcome. You are safe here! Violence Anonymous is a confidential fellowship, allowing us to speak without fear of anyone judging or commenting on what we have to say. Anyone with a desire to stop participating in drama and violence is welcome in Violence Anonymous. If you are serious about arresting your violent behavior, V.A. can help. Whether you identify yourself as a victim, rescuer or persecutor, recovering from an addiction to violence is a serious challenge. The solution is here if you work for it. We suggest that you attend at least 6 meetings before deciding if Violence Anonymous is for you, and we urge you to place principles before personalities. By attending meetings and working the 12 steps of VA, we have found a solution that breaks the cycle of violence, and leads to safety, security and meaningful connections in our lives. We are learning to arrest our addiction to violent behavior, one day at a time."

5. Read how it works

6. Member Introduction
"At this time we introduce ourselves by first name only. This is not to embarrass you, but to get to know you."

Week 1: Step Meeting for that month with step speaker who has worked that step in VA. (If no one at the meeting has worked that step in VA, we read the step from the AA 12 & 12.)

Week 2: Member Qualification Meeting. Speaker must be currently working VA’s 12 Steps or a newcomer willing share what brings them to VA.

Week 3: Tools Meeting. Long form of the Tools of Violence Anonymous is the additional reading. A 5-minute member qualification on the Tools preceeds open sharing. Business meeting after meeting.

Week 4: Traditions Meeting (discussion based on reading the Tradition of the month from the AA 12 and 12)

Week 5: Open Discussion

 

7. Read one Additional Readings

Boundary Styles

Drama Triangle Roles

Tools of Violence Anonymous

Drama Triangle

Non Violence

Violence

Child Abuse

Nurturing Children

Creator

Traditions

8. Sharing

"Would someone be willing to be timekeeper?"

Now is the time for member qualification in Week 1, 2 or 3.

"Now is the time for individual sharing. We ask that there be no cross talk – which means that we keep the focus on ourselves, address our remarks to the group and not to any individual. Please refrain from making remarks during another person’s share, and save questions and comments for after the meeting. Explicit descriptions of violent fantasies can be triggering to other members of the meeting. When sharing about violent fantasies, we put our focus on our powerlessness over the fantasy and the feelings that trigger the belief of victimhood. Please acknowledge that you have heard the time keeper give the one minute warning and the word "time" at the end of your share. You may mute and unmute your phone by pressing *6. For those who are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted. We are now open for discussion."

9. 7th Tradition (At 10 minutes before the close of the meeting)
Our 7th Tradition states that every VA group ought to be fully self supporting, declining outside contributions. We pass a virtual basket and ask that you give what you can. The funds are used to pay the expenses of the fellowship.

Contributions may be made by:

1. Mailing a check, money order or well-wrapped cash to Violence Anonymous P.O.Box 152122 Austin, Texas 78715
2. PayPal Payments can be made to info@violenceanonyomus.com

10. Tools
Read the short form of the Tools of Violence Anonymous.
"We take the last few minutes of the meeting for each person to share the tools they will use in the upcoming week to avoid playing the victim, rescuer and/or perpetrator."


11. Contact Requests
"Now is the time for contact (phone #, email, skype) requests. Please state who's contact info you would like and we will exchange info after the closing of the meeting."


12. VA Related Announcements
Announcements that affect this meeting or VA as a whole.

13. Closing
"The opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you like and leave the rest. The things you heard were spoken in confidence and should be treated as confidential. Keep them within the walls of this room. Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love, and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time. The line will remain open after the meeting for fellowship. Will all who care to join me in the serenity prayer?"

14. Contact exchange and fellowship
Those persons whose contact info was requested can be shared now.

 

 

 

THURSDAY STEP MEETING FORMAT for a Violence Anonymous Meeting

 

1. Introduction
"Good day, my name is _____ and I will be your secretary today. This meeting is for persons who have been victims, perpetrators and/or rescuers in the cycle of violence. This is a Step Meeting of Violence Anonymous. Currently we are reading from _______ and we will be beginning on page _____.”

2. Serenity prayer
"God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
"You may mute and unmute your phone by pressing *6. For those who are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted."

3. Read the preamble

4. A word to newcomers:

"Welcome. You are safe here! Violence Anonymous is a confidential fellowship, allowing us to speak without fear of anyone judging or commenting on what we have to say. Anyone with a desire to stop participating in drama and violence is welcome in Violence Anonymous. If you are serious about arresting your violent behavior, V.A. can help. Whether you identify yourself as a victim, rescuer or persecutor, recovering from an addiction to violence is a serious challenge. The solution is here if you work for it. We suggest that you attend at least 6 meetings before deciding if Violence Anonymous is for you, and we urge you to place principles before personalities. By attending meetings and working the 12 steps of VA, we have found a solution that breaks the cycle of violence, and leads to safety, security and meaningful connections in our lives. We are learning to arrest our addiction to violent behavior, one day at a time."

5. Read how it works

6. Member Introduction
"At this time we introduce ourselves by first name only. This is not to embarrass you, but to get to know you."

Week 1-3: Discussion on the Step reading.
Week 4: Speaker on the Step. Read the step for no longer that 20 min past the hour. Speaker speaks for 7 min. Others speak for 3 min each.
Week 5: Discussion on the Step reading.

7. Read the current step material
Read until approximately 20 minutes pasts the hour.

8. Sharing

"Would someone be willing to be timekeeper?"

"Now is the time for individual sharing. We ask that there be no cross talk – which means that we keep the focus on ourselves, address our remarks to the group and not to any individual. Please refrain from making remarks during another person’s share, and save questions and comments for after the meeting. Explicit descriptions of violent fantasies can be triggering to other members of the meeting. When sharing about violent fantasies, we put our focus on our powerlessness over the fantasy and the feelings that trigger the belief of victimhood. Please acknowledge that you have heard the time keeper give the one minute warning and the word "time" at the end of your share. You may mute and unmute your phone by pressing *6. For those who are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted. We are now open for discussion."

9. 7th Tradition (At 10 minutes before the close of the meeting)
Our 7th Tradition states that every VA group ought to be fully self supporting, declining outside contributions. We pass a virtual basket and ask that you give what you can. The funds are used to pay the expenses of the fellowship.

Contributions may be made by:

1. Mailing a check, money order or well-wrapped cash to Violence Anonymous P.O.Box 152122 Austin, Texas 78715
2. PayPal Payments can be made to info@violenceanonyomus.com

10. Tools
Read the Tools of Violence Anonymous.
"We take the last few minutes of the meeting for each person to share the tools they will use in the upcoming week to avoid playing the victim, rescuer and/or perpetrator."


11. Contact Requests
"Now is the time for contact (phone #, email, skype) requests. Please state who's contact info you would like and we will exchange info after the closing of the meeting."


12. VA Related Announcements
Announcements that affect this meeting or VA as a whole.

13. Closing
"The opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you like and leave the rest. The things you heard were spoken in confidence and should be treated as confidential. Keep them within the walls of this room. Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love, and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time. The line will remain open after the meeting for fellowship. Will all who care to join me in the serenity prayer?"

14. Contact exchange and fellowship
Those persons whose contact info was requested can be shared now.

 

SUNDAY MEETING FORMAT for a Violence Anonymous Meeting
(Revised 03.19.17)

1. Introduction
“Good day, my name is _____ and I will be your secretary today. This meeting is for persons who have been victims, perpetrators and/or rescuers in the cycle of violence.”

2. Serenity Prayer
God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

“You may mute and unmute your phone by pressing *6. For those who are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted.”

3. Read the Preamble

4. Read A Word to Newcomers:
Welcome.  Violence Anonymous is a confidential fellowship, allowing us to speak without fear of anyone judging or commenting on what we have to say. Anyone with a desire to stop participating in drama and violence is welcome in Violence Anonymous.
If you are serious about arresting your violent behavior, V.A. can help. Whether you identify yourself as a victim, rescuer or persecutor, recovering from an addiction to violence is a serious challenge. The solution is here if you work for it.
We suggest that you attend at least 6 meetings before deciding if Violence Anonymous is for you, and we urge you to place principles before personalities. By attending meetings and working the 12 steps of VA, we have found a solution that breaks the cycle of violence, and leads to safety, security and meaningful connections in our lives. We are learning to arrest our addiction to violent behavior, one day at a time.

5. Read how it works

6. Read the Tradition of the month (click here for The VA 12 Steps and Traditions)

7. Member Introduction
“At this time we introduce ourselves by first name only. This is not to embarrass you, but to get to know you.”

8. The 5 Weekly Formats

Week 1: Speaker Meeting
VA member speaks for 15 minutes on their experience, strength and hope in VA.
a. “This week is a speaker meeting.  After we read a short additional reading we will be asking for someone to qualify for 15 minutes on their experience strength and hope in VA.”
b. (Read or ask someone to read a short additional reading.)
c. “Is there someone who would like to qualify for 15 minutes on their VA experience?”
d. “Is there someone who would be willing to be our timekeeper?”
(go to #9 in the format)

Week 2: Tools Meeting
VA member shares for 5 minutes on tool of their choice.
a. “This week is a tools meeting.  After we read tools 1 through 8 in their long form we will be asking for someone to share for 5 minutes on a tool of their choice.”
b. (Read or ask someone to read the long form of tools 1 through 8.)
c. “Is there someone who would like to share for 5 minutes on tool of their choice?”
d. “Is there someone who would be willing to be our timekeeper?”
(go to #9 in the format)

Week 3: Step Meeting
VA member speaks on the step of the month
a. “This week is a step meeting.  After we read an additional reading we will be asking for someone who has worked this step in VA to speak for 10 minutes on the step of the month.”
b. (Read or ask someone to read an additional reading.)
c. “Is there someone who would like to speak for 10 minutes on the step of the month?”  (If not we read the step from the AA 12&12.)
d. “Is there someone who would be willing to be our timekeeper?”
(go to #9 in the format)

Week 4: Tools Meeting
VA member shares for 5 minutes on tool of their choice.
a. “This week is a tools meeting, so after we read the long form of the VA tools 9 through 16 we will be asking for someone to share for 5 minutes on tool of their choice.”
b. (Read or ask someone to read long form of tools. 9 through 16)
c. “Is there someone who would like to share for 5 minutes on tool of their choice?”
d. “Is there someone who would be willing to be our timekeeper?”
(go to #9 in the format)

Week 5: Tradition Meeting
a. “This week is a traditions meeting.  After we read an additional reading we will be asking for someone to speak for 5 minutes on the traditions in general or a tradition of their choice”
b. (Read or ask someone to read an additional reading.)
c. “Is there someone who would like to speak for 5 minutes on the traditions in general or a tradition of their choice?”  [If not we read a tradition from the AA 12&12.]
d. “Is there someone who would be willing to be our timekeeper?”
(go to #9 in the format)

Links to Additional Readings:
boundary styles
drama triangle roles
drama triangle
non violence
violence
child abuse
nurturing children
creator
traditions

9. Sharing
Now is the time for individual sharing.

We ask that there be no cross talk – which means that we keep the focus on ourselves, address our remarks to the group and not to any individual. Please refrain from making remarks during another person’s share, and save questions and comments for after the meeting. Explicit descriptions of violent fantasies can be triggering to other members of the meeting. When sharing about violent fantasies, we put our focus on our powerlessness over the fantasy and the feelings that trigger the belief of victimhood. Please acknowledge that you have heard the time keeper give the one minute warning and the word "time" at the end of your share. You may mute and unmute your phone by pressing *6. For those who are not sharing, please make sure that your phone is muted. We are now open for discussion.

At about 15 minutes before the closing of the meeting ask “Are there any newcomers or returning members who would like to share at this time?”
(If not, return to regular shares.)

At about 10 minutes before the close of the meeting:

10. 7th Tradition
“Our 7th Tradition states that every VA group ought to be fully self supporting, declining outside contributions. We pass a virtual basket and ask that you give what you can. The funds are used to pay the expenses of the fellowship. Contributions may be made by:

  1. Mailing a check, money order or well-wrapped cash to Violence Anonymous P.O. Box 152122 Austin, Texas 78715
  2. Or through PayPal at info@violenceanonymous.com

11. VA Related Announcements
“If you would like a copy of this format please write to Beryl at berylwing@aol.com.

“Does anyone have any other announcements that affect this meeting or VA as a whole?”

12. Tools
(Read short form of the Tools of Violence Anonymous. Even on Tools meeting weeks)
“We take the last few minutes of the meeting for each person to share the tools they will use in the upcoming week to avoid playing the victim, rescuer and/or perpetrator.”

13. Contact Requests
“Now is the time for contact (phone #, email, skype) requests. Please state who's contact info you would like and we will exchange info after the closing of the meeting.”

14. Closing
“The opinions expressed here were strictly those of the person who gave them. Take what you like and leave the rest. The things you heard were spoken in confidence and should be treated as confidential. Keep them within the walls of this room. Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understanding, love, and peace of the program grow in you one day at a time.”

“The line will remain open after the meeting for fellowship.”

“Will all who care to join me in the Serenity Prayer.”
God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

15. Contact exchange and fellowship
Those persons whose contact info was requested can be shared now.